Saturday, September 10, 2011

Rocky Road for Then and Now

I've been sick the last few days. It hasn't been pleasant (unless you ask the kids who have had more than their fair share of Dinosaur Train). The worst part is that Todd has been in meetings all week, including today. Dishes, laundry, and basic tidying have fallen by the wayside, but today was special. Even though the kitchen is a wreck, I made sure that I had at least one counter free to use to bake and decorate a birthday cake for Cooper. I actually paused this morning just before 10am to remember how I felt at that same time, two years ago. Amazed that 2 years have passed already, but so incredibly happy to have my boistrous, babbling two-year-old boy. He brings laughter and mischief to the world, and I'm convinced its a better place because he's around... most days *wink, wink* For the big day, I thought nothing would suit this eternally-messy boy better than a chocolate cake, chocolate frosting and marshmallow fluff in true Rocky Road ice cream fashion.
Then...
And now!
Even though these candles got the better of him together, he later corrected the offense by eating them for not going out at the same time. Not joking, at least not about the eating
them part.
As soon as he realized he could actually EAT this, it was a full-contact sport. The best part was that the marshmallow fluff was sticky, so he was continually trying to get the 'strings' connecting his face to the cupcake.
I love this boy... and this face!
Yeah for birthday cupcakes!!!

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Jumping Girl

The smallest of my babies is growing so fast, I feel like I'm daily washing clothes in the next size up. In so doing, I came across a "jumper" that a friend left us when she moved. I know these have a bad-rap in America, but ours is attached to the bottom of one of our glorious open stairs. It's a much broader holding post than a door jam and after tugging on it myself, I felt sure that if it could support my heft, my 17-pound little girl would be safe. She loves looking at everything, especially her siblings' toys... when they've all been pulled out... and strewn all across the room. That, apparently, is a happy-baby-maker (but not a happy-mommy-maker)!
Hey, whatcha doing?
Did you know this thing jumps AND moves around?!?!
BEST... TOY... EVER!!!!!

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Assimilation Never Tasted So Good

Township. They're different from anything I've ever experienced. They're not the Barrios in Mexico. Not the East Bay of San Francisco. Not the South Side of Chicago. They're not Skid Row or Midtown. As best I can figure, townships were set up under the Apartheid government as a way of locating persons who were different from one another. In that respect, they remind me of the Warsaw Ghetto and how people were told where to live based on ethnicity. But as far as that comparison, that's where the analogy ends. There are black townships, Coloured, Indian and the list goes on. And then, within each group, there are sub-groups. Afrikaans coloured, Xosa black and so on. Each group has its own culture and many languages. We have chosen a church that is near Soweto (SOuth WEstern TOwnships). We're in the section known as Eldorado Park and it's essentially an Afrikaans-speaking coloured community("coloured" is the politically correct term here). We love it. We love the singing, the people, and the culture. We love that we can make enormous cultural blunders or ask inappropriate questions, and we are lovingly laughed at and called "Ameri-qua's". It's a term of endearment and we've grown accustomed to hearing it. We're called that when we accidentally curse trying to say a new word in Afrikaans that we have heard others saying (don't judge...we're not the first missionaries to do it and we won't be the last). We're called that when I say that my baby can't suck on a lollipop to keep quiet and we're called that when we show up to church with a newborn (there's often a 3-month grace period for the new moms at our church).

Every year, our church has a potjiekos (potjie) competition. I've always assumed that this type of cooking came from the years of cooking over open fires, but I've honestly never asked. All I know is, there's a cast-iron pot, lots of meat and veggies, and it takes HOURS, but oh is it good! We had our first taste a few months after we arrived here when we were camping with a group from church. I was pregnant and thought food had never tasted so good in my life. It was like a Sunday pot roast from Heaven. That same September, big of belly and appetite, someone (God bless them!) realized that we were still quite fresh off the "boat" and had no idea how to pronounce potjiekos, let alone cook the stuff, so we were asked to be the judges. So we went, not realizing how serious and competitive the competition was, and learned very quickly that as the judge you are definitely in the hot-seat. Todd swore he would never do that again and vowed he'd learn just to avoid being a judge again. The next year, we entered and the food was edible, but I'll leave it at that. This year, Todd was determined. His goal: Have people come back to HIS pot for seconds. We bought a pot. Researched recipes and tried them out and at the last minute, ditched all those ideas and decided to do a Texas White Bean Chili. Todd figured he'd never have a good result with 'home advantage' until he'd had longer to learn under someone who KNEW how to do a traditional potjiekos. The end result? People did come for seconds... and thirds! He even won 3rd place and I tell you, I've not seen my husband so proud of himself since he managed to get a very large piece of furniture up our death-defying insanity-of-a-staircase. 3rd place. I guess you could say, we've assimilated :)
Some of the plates for judging.
The judges savoring the spoils of all our labour.
Our 3rd place, prize-winning white chili chicken potjiekos.
The unsung potbellied hero of the day.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

The Old Man

There are many times that I wonder where my son came from. I don't know where he got his personality from or his spunk. He's two parts comedian, three parts wonderfully sweet and a dash of hysterical thrown in for good measure. Lately, he's hit a wall. He is at the point where he's picking up words by the dozen, but he still can't express himself well enough to get his point across. So, he has resorted to saying his handful of words emphatically, dramatically, powerfully, and a lot of other adverbs. The bottom line though, he speaks like a man from the "old country." In a little more descriptive terms, Todd says he speaks with his hands like an old Italian man playing bocce ball
I want something, but I need your attention first. So I'm going to throw my hands up to get your attention...
I will vent my frustrations at not knowing the words to express, "I don't like walking on these uneven wooden slats," with THIS emphatic gesture to let you know that you SHOULD KNOW THIS STUFF!!!
When my brilliant miming skills go unnoticed, I will then throw this move in conjunction with a rather whiny-sounding, "Noooooo!!!!!!"
Please, please understand me people! I'm begging.
Why doesn't anyone in this place understand English!?!?!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Flying Baby

I was accosted yesterday in the grocery check-out line by a bleary-eyed man in his early 30s. He was putting up the last of his groceries when he saw Em, obligingly sitting on her bottom in the grocery cart, organizing various noodles. His eyes then wandered up to see Cooper, sitting in the cart's seat, making funny faces at Harper, who was in a baby carrier strapped to my chest. Harper was giggling and Cooper was near hysterics. The man made eye contact and instantly started talking at a break-neck speed, but as I don't understand Afrikaans much, it was hard to catch what he was saying. I got that he had two kids who were either 8 weeks or 8 months. So I asked him which in English, and he dutifully changed languages for me. It seemed to take every ounce of concentration he had left in his weary mind to formulate his words, but he plodded on, despite the effort. Turns out, his wife had twins 8 weeks ago and people keep telling him it'll get better, but he desperately needed to know WHEN. When would he get his wife back? When would he get sleep again? When would he be able to live on something besides legally addictive stimulants such as coffee and energy drinks?

I laughed. I shouldn't have laughed at this poor, poor man who was desperately trying to shake the fog from his head and recognize his own life, but I did laugh. Sometimes, the reflection you catch in the mirror when you come across other weary parents is just too much for anything else. My laughter caught him off guard but he was determined to get an answer, so he pressed on. I told him the babies would sleep... eventually. I told him he'd have more fun when they could laugh and giggle at him, when he wasn't afraid of breaking them every time he held one. I told him it would go by quickly, mostly aided by the lack of sleep in the meantime. He wasn't taking it though. He pressed again, when? And standing there, in the grocery aisle, I realized I had crossed some invisible line. It was easier for me to grocery shop with three NOW than it ever was to shop with Todd when I had just Em. I'm more capable now of throwing stuff in our mini-van and just going than I ever was with just one, or even two, even with a husband to help (in only a way a loving, yet clueless new dad can "help").

That got me thinking and I realized a few truths. Every kid really IS different. Em was laid-back and easy. She was quiet and without much neediness. Cooper was as needy as they get, and picky to boot. But this kid, this third child of mine who entered the world making darn sure I was well aware that she was not going to keep the status quo and just fall into line with everyone else, is normal. She does all the things her siblings never did, but that 96.3% of all other babies do. She laughs uncontrollably. She smiles at strangers, but only if she can see Mommy nearby. She does the elusive flying-baby I've heard so much about, but haven't ever seen. And, best of all, she's easily amused, and easily distracted. Cooper was easily distracted, but not much for being amused by anything. Em was highly amused by many things, but if something got under her skin or into her head, there was zero detraction from that one particular thing. It seems like so long ago that the older two were this small. Were in this constant state of learning and growing and changing. So today, while Em and Cooper were napping, I decided to get a shot or two of my littlest, who is more and more her own girl every day.

Sir, whoever and wherever you are, take heart. You'll sleep again, you'll get a routine once more and soon, all too soon, those little babes will be wrapping you around their little fingers. Promise.
The pretend JCPenny/Sears studio shot.
I love my ball, but I love my mommy even more... she makes me drool!!!
I believe I can fly...

Friday, August 12, 2011

The Little One Said, "Roll Over"

As a kid, I remember my mom being one of those people who remembered everything about everything. As I got older, this became fun when I realized she was a walking encyclopedia of funny, random camp songs. She even knew how to make RAIN. I was rather impressed and often snickered when I was able to make her sing a camp-fire song, complete with silly hand motions, in it's entirety. The best was making her sing one of the really long ones like "10 in the Bed."

Yesterday, the whole family was going on a long walk. Todd was dealing with Cooper and a shoe situation while I was reapplying sunscreen to Em. I'd placed Harper on the floor as a 'holding place' since I knew the other two couldn't get to her. Todd called to me because she was on her side, but alas, the kid with this many noisy siblings has been able to half-turn to see what's going on for a while. The next thing I know, Todd and I are looking at this...
She hit a road-block in the shape of her daddy's dirty camping gear, but there really wasn't much to debate: baba is mobile.
I'm excited for her, but rather sad to see this milestone accomplished. I know what it means. I know my carefree days of plopping her on the middle of the bed to stay safe from her siblings are over. I know the days of having a preschooler, a toddler, and an infant are over... my baby is now a "big baby" and it's a rather nostalgic reminder of how quickly these kids grow. The funny thing, as all these thoughts of how old my baby is and how fast the time is going, all I can hear in my head is my mom's trying-to-get-you-to-laugh voice singing, "There were 10 in the bed and the little one said, 'Roll over! Roll over!' So they all rolled over and one fell out. When he hit the floor he gave a shout, 'OWW! Please remember to tie a knot in your pajamas and remember, there's only room in a single bed for...' "

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Every Now and Again

When Todd and I were still in Bourbonnais, we heard a sermon from one of the pastors at College Church. I don't remember the pastors name. I don't remember the scripture reference and I can't even tell you which sanctuary we were in for this particular message. I don't remember the point of the message. But I do remember the pastor, over and over again, repeating that a group of people "wanted to go to Asia, tried to go to get into such-and-such, but got stuck in wherever." Funny how I can't even remember with enough clarity to publish on the web the cities or any other point in the sermon except the wanting Option #1, trying to get to Option #2, and getting stuck with Option #3.

We had a diaper malfunction the other night. It wasn't the diaper's fault. It was somehow put on wrong (sleep deprivation?) and thus, didn't realize its full potential. As such, I needed to change Cooper's sheets. I meant to do it first thing in the morning (option #1), but there was a yogurt crisis. I tried to deal with it a few hours later (option #2) but was thwarted by my youngest. And thus, I was stuck with two sleepy kids at naptime and one bed to put them in... alas, poor, unfortunate option #3. So down went Cooper in Em's bed (he'd fallen asleep in my arms on the way up the stairs). Then I had Em to sort out and in the process, Harper started fussing and needing attention. That was the point at which I decided that if life dictated Option #3, I was going to give Option #3 its biggest and best showing ever. A blanket was laid on the floor, pillow for Em was thrown down, and Baby Einstein was promptly put into the DVD player and *poof*!!! I magically had two happy girls who ended up vegging themselves to sleep.
Anyone who has been a mom for two seconds knows the guilt that inevitably comes with the title. Am I doing the best for my baby even if I don't make her food? Will my child suffer attachment issues for life if I shower and she wakes up while I'm in there? Is my little one being held enough? Am I spoiling my child by holding him too much? What if I turn him off to that for life? I had that voice in my head, taunting me with thoughts of my girls' brains turning to over-cooked spaghetti noodles as I stood there. But then, I grabbed the camera, and watched, through my lens, how sweet Em was when she pat Harper's back and told her little sister, "That's called a fish Harper. That one is a birdie. A birdie sounds like 'cheep, cheep' " and so on. By the end of the pictures, I had one and a half kids asleep, they hadn't watched more than 7 minutes of television anyways, and I decided that ever now and again, the good-enough option #3 will work out just fine.